Whilst Christmas is supposed to be ‘the most wonderful time of the year', there is little doubt that the festive period can also be a particularly stressful time. If your relationship is in difficulty, sometimes the added pressure of the festive period can sadly lead couples to go their separate ways.
It is often the case for couples in this position to stay together during the holiday period for the sake of the family, however last year 455 people filed for a divorce between Christmas Eve and New Year’s Day.
If you are in this position, it may be worth stopping to consider the following before you take any action:
- Seek support from family members;
- Do not make snap decisions about your future, your finances, arrangements for the children, or about moving out of your home;
- If possible, carry on talking, but avoid involving children in adult conversations;
- Take time to consider your finances and those of the family;
- Do not take your partner’s financial documents without their consent;
- Arrange to speak with a specialist family law solicitor in the New Year.
There is no need to stop communicating with each other altogether, in fact, this continued communication can be the difference between an amicable separation and contentious court proceedings. However, if you do decide to proceed with a separation, you should avoid reaching any final agreements without first taking legal advice.
It is important that you do not make assumptions about how the law works when dividing financial assets or considering arrangements for children. All too often we find that couples have agreed on arrangements in principle, only to find that the agreement is either not enforceable or does not provide them and their family with enough protection.
Whilst separation can be extremely difficult, the process itself does not have to become contentious. A lot of the time, amicable agreements can be reached between separating partners which will meet both of their future respective needs and the needs of any children they may have. This can then be formalised in a Final Order or Parenting Plan without the need to attend Court.
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